Women go through a ton of Shit- ‘Imma’ blog about it!

what to do when you feel stuck (2)

I started blogging in June then actively started again in August; so a little over three months, inconsistency and 39 followers after, well 40 (apparently I’m following myself) I am here still a klutz at this trying to find my niche. 

I tried blogging before with google but that was short-lived. I would open that blank page, eager to create a masterpiece bursting with profound wisdom on any of life’s ubiquitous unanswerable questions and then, poof the musing was gone. 

Recently though, after finally putting a horrific ‘relationshit’ behind me and all the drama that came with it including baby mama, fiancee, the chick on the side side side -all of whom were different individuals -Oh yeah! They were legion. I decided to blog about it. Not rant about it, or bitch about it– just talk about it because I still couldn’t process the bullshittery that I’d endured.

So I guess I wanted to put it on paper where I could see it and by the same token where someone else would see it and gain something useful from it. Coincidentally, my experience has heightened my awareness of just how much women endure abuse from men and refuse to leave these predators. I still cannot fathom that phenomena or maybe I can, turns out emotional/psychological abuse is a bitch.  I assure you I am not bitter nor have I condemned men to the eternal flames of hell. I am however passionate!

I am beginning to realise my POV for my blog. A topic that is as perennial as the sky, has been discussed for time immemorial and will continue long after we are gone- Women. While my blog will feature a few stray articles about absolute randomness Its central theme will be Women – Sex, Love, Success (cliche I know) all from My Vantage Point.

Feel free to weigh in on topics that I discuss, wisdom (as if I know that much) I would want to impart and tidbits of advice on all things women-related. Yes I will be dispensing sage advice on how to keep the nappy in your hair in addition to my flawless no-make up routine I’ve mastered for most of my life and everything in between.

I feel a disclaimer coming on; I am not a man hater– really, I’m not. I’m not even a feminist and my one shitty experience surely does not qualify me to dispense oracle-like counsel. But as universal as these experiences are, my experience, my response, my reaction, my pain, my hurt would never be the same as yours. That I think is what defines the uniqueness of our lives. So what the fuck, I’m going to write about mine and hopefully along the way, what I have to say -as clumsily as I say it- will help, comfort or empower some woman out there. 

Shout out to my followers, thank you so much for finding value in what I write.




Published by kedawithani

An awkward 'adulter' navigating life with a vagina in her teenie tiny corner of the world.

118 thoughts on “Women go through a ton of Shit- ‘Imma’ blog about it!

    1. I’ve noticed you’ve been playing around with your design, so have I. I still haven’t found the ‘One’ though. I’m feeling through this one but i’m looking for a cozy feeling. You will have to link me I am not finding it. (Highly likely I am doing something wrong though *facepalm*)

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  1. Been trying to find my comfort zone. Play around with what you got and you will realize it’s not that far. No limitations, stretch a bit. You might be surprised to be led right back to where you already are!

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  2. Susie sent me, but I’m glad she did! I enjoyed this blog, could relate to it as my marriage was a really bad relationship and am single mum. Kids both grown up now so life a little easier. The good news is life does get better.

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  3. After reading through a few of your entries I can say that as a guy, your blog is actually quite appealing, if not entertaining to more than just women – who on the surface it would initially attract.
    Agree with every point you made. Pretty damn awesome.

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    1. Well thank you very much kind Sir and thank you for stopping by and actually reading,commenting even…!!! 🙂 Yes kids… hmph don’t get me started again, my inspiration for that post just went to bed. I’m to report I had little to no incidents today–
      one of the good days…!

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    1. :-)… OMG!!! thank you so much…I feel honored…whew… hand me that microphone will yah… I feel a speech coming on… ahem ahem… lol thanks for visiting and reading and liking…!!!


  4. Amen! Haven’t we been through a lot I have been through a hellish/abusive relationship too. It is amazing on the otherside feeling so empowered, atleast I do now. It took a longtime to realize that a lot of my favorite attributes grew up from the wreckage of that relationship. BTW I love your blogs title so so much!!

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  5. Your writing is savagely beautiful. LOL .. seriously something is different here .

    II don’t know in how many years I will have 40 followers but I am more of a writer than a blogger so it doesn’t matter much.

    Keep up your brutish writing skills intact. Hoping to read more from you.

    Check out my blog and get me closer to that elusive target of 20..

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  6. 1) Love the blog! Killin’ it, lady.
    2) I would argue that you ARE a feminist… and it’s not a bad word. 😉
    3) who the heck is Susie? “Susie sent me”. I feel like Roseanne Arquette desperately seeking Susan/Madonna…

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    1. Aww… you always manage to evoke these bubbly things in my stomach then make me red all over… thank you so much for your very kind words. This coming from a writer whose posts I look forward to reading because, well you are an awesome writer yourself, means the world to me…!

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  7. I love your courage and humanity in sharing this topic. If you ever want to cocollaborate on a post, please let me know! Getting the junk out of your life is definitely empowering for anyone! I wish you good luck for your blog and it’s success. 🙂


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  8. Way to go, girl! Women need to find their inner strength and understand their worth! You’re my type of woman! Women grow strong! I’m about to post some article on beliefs. Hope you will find it worthy of a read 😊

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  9. That my kinda girl…..you either ‘Ride High’ or don’t Ride At All! You’re either number one or zero…and reading this ‘Relationshit’ thing I predict you were in control of your destiny!
    At least it climaxed in ‘One’ piece I hoped. Happy ridance to a total disaster!

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  10. Hey!
    I’m sorry for all that you’ve been through. I really am.
    I hope you make peace with it someday soon! 🙂
    I just wanted you to know, there are these few guys out there who aren’t predators, they’re just harmless pandas. They wanna be close to you, talk to you, hold you and watch you smile. I hope you meet your panda soon! All the things that you’ve been through will pay off, I hope.
    I really think you should go ahead and write all that you can about women. Your point of view for the blog seems pretty great and I guess we’ll have a lot to learn from it.
    Sorry for the huge comment!
    Keep writing 🙂

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      1. Okay, let’s give this a try.
        When I click on “comment”, below the box, up appears my email address, my photo, etc.
        On my page, as far as I know, the commenter’s information does not appear when they leave a message.
        Did that help? If not, again, ignore it. It’s probably something very simple, but it will elude me until one day the light bulb shines, and I say, “Oh geese! How could I have been so dumb?”


  11. Daaaaamn girl!!!! You’re a rockstar!! How can anyone not love you…(btw haven’t even start reading yet) I just know you’re awesome. I’m gona enjoy you so much…you’re a SUPER BABE!!! And I love super babes:-) And yea we not hate-ting we just don’t like bullshittering!!
    Rock on!

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  12. It is so interesting to read everyones different style of writing. I love blogging so much because of just that reason… everyone is different! As a new blogger, I am also looking for tips to grow. If you have any suggestions for me please let me know! I also wish you the best of luck from here on out and welcome back, blogger!!

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  13. Hi,
    Congratulations on building such an engaged community and winning the awards. Impressive since you’ve only been blogging a few short months. You mentioned you’re still working on your niche. I have an article on how to find your niche. If you’d like to see it, let me know.
    You liked a comment I made on Danny Ray’s Meet and Greet. I wanted to come by to introduce myself and thank you for the like. Thanks for checking out my blog today.

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  14. Keda😩😩 your blog! It’s so beautiful. Your posts! Inspiring. Reaching out to women, fantastic. Keep it up sistergyal❣️ I hope to get more inspiration from your write-ups. I’m already really inspired!

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  15. Love this!! Lol I actually think I’m following myself too 😂😂😂. Maybe, hopefully one day I’ll get there too! 😉 I think your onto something great though! Looking forward to following ya ! 😘

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