Do you remember when you learned about the types of families in school? We all fantasized about having the idyllic nuclear family; a mommy, a daddy, and three perfect angels–a boy, a girl and a puppy, (what, you didn’t?).
Of course I was going to have this type of family, because I was going to find Mr. Right –my prince charming and we would fall ‘Savage Gardenly’ (did you get it?) in love and live happily ever after.
Well that shit didn’t happen! Reality slapped me right into single-parenthood with one kid (whew! Thank God), no pets, bills, delayed goals and no Mr. Right let alone Prince Charming to live happily ever after with. Let’s talk about ‘single-momming’.
Are you a single mom? Like living by yourself with your one, two, three maybe litter of four kids (no offense to parents with sensitivity of clitoral magnitudes who have a problem with children being called baby goats, and now likened to kittens! Gasp!) kind of single mom?
Are you a single mom? Like the finding out you were pregnant while opening your acceptance letter to pursue your dream of becoming a criminal lawyer, a politician with a minor in theocracy (because law, politics and religion seem to go hand in hand) kind of single mom?
Are you a single mom? Like the working 8 hours a day (12 hours if you count in the time you wake up to prepare the goats, sorry, kids for school) then get home to go over homework, and review work and lesson work kind of single mom?
Tell me ladies are you that single mom? Like whose single income house-hold paycheck goes to mortgage (because saying mortgage and then bills sounds more dramatic than just saying bills) bills, food, kids, your school tuition that’s why you can only afford a $10 bottle of wine kind of single mom?
Are you a single mom? Like whose kid’s father is an absentee deadbeat who never contributed a penny to his kid much less emotional support, you’re struggling to make ends meet kind of single mom?
Well if you’re that kind of single mom (and I know I’m missing a helluva lot more) I Salute You, Kudos to you and Happy Mother’s Day today, tomorrow and forever! ‘Cuz’ Parenting when you want the best for your kid, ain’t easy for the happy nuclear everybody plays a part in raising the child family, let alone a single parent setting.
I know I know, dads are single parents too (cheers to you dads), but this is a post about single moms…
Any single moms out there? What has your experience been like? How do you cope? How do you control yourself from catching a case? Comment and let me know…